For standing up to one sibling, another sibling seems to be getting 'kicked out of the family.'
I have spent my whole life afraid of standing up to my sibling, because I was sure I would get kicked out of the family for it, and now it looks as if that’s happening.— Causing Drama or Clearing the Air?Maybe stop thinking about the family issue relative to the holiday. In fact, stop thinking ofrelative to the holiday, or to your sibling, or the family. Maybe it’s time to be yourself on your own terms for a while.
Beyond this one event: detach, repair, renew. As part of the “repair,” please explore counseling — which I mention with the usual caveat that it can still take time to find a therapist. But that’s for later. For now, I think just recognize that you’re coming to a new battle in an old war, better equipped now but still exhausted from past battles, and grant yourself permission to get some rest. The battle will be there when you’re ready.Readers’ thoughts:
· To Carolyn’s point about imagining yourself taking someone else in: Also try to do it for yourself. What would make you happy, what would give you comfort during the holidays, and is there some aspect of that you can give to yourself?
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