Can't stop feeling sorry for yourself? Criticizing your self-pity will only make it worse. Here's what to try instead.
, which is the feeling that we either are or have done something so bad that we’re unacceptable to others. Because we’re meaning-makers, the questionSomething out there really doesn’t like me,"So, what can you do about it? When that woe-is-me feeling hits, many, if not most, of us immediately begin to scold ourselves. Sometimes we do it harshly, telling ourselves toOther times it's milder.
Rather than either getting caught in the bad feeling or trying to “rise above” it, you can recognize that you areat the moment. They’re not all of who you are; after all, you haven’t always felt this awful way. You have a more permanent Self—like the way the sun can be hidden behind clouds—and you can use that Self to acknowledge, accept, and give compassion to the distressed part of you without getting totally caught in all the distress.
Then, acknowledge to yourself and this part of you that whatever is so distressing does suck. Sometimes the nicest and most supportive thing a person can say to someone going through a tough time is a heartfelt, “Wow, that really sucks.” For this moment, don’t cajole or argue with yourself to get out of the bald, naked crumminess of the situation that your inner distress is feeling. Don’t tense up against yourself. Stay relaxed, open, and tender to your own inner hurting self.
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