'It’s not like I need the money. I just think it’s fair that he pays his way.'
Dear Quentin, My boyfriend and I have been together seven years, and in that time I bought a house. I used my own savings and spent about $10,000 on renovations. My house is a three-bedroom family home, and the tenants cover most of my mortgage. I still have other bills, two cars, insurance, utilities, cellphones, etc.
I have both cars in my name; my boyfriend is working to pay one off. He pays the $300 car note and insurance, and gives me $300 toward “rent.” I feel bad that I’ll be taking most of his income, but feel like I can invest it better than him. What do you think is fair?Dear Hard Working, We could go back and forth about what would happen if you were married, or if the gender roles were reversed, but the bottom line is you are entitled to ask your boyfriend to pay a fair market rent, or a rent that is more than $300 a month but still less than the market rate. In many housing markets right now, $800 is a bargain.
Similarly, your boyfriend’s unwillingness or inability to hold down a job should not be a factor in his choosing to not live in the adult world. You’re not his mother, nor are you a friend who is giving him a couch to crash on while he gets his finances in order. You are his partner. He should be prepared to pay his way.
You want to be supportive, but you also don’t want to be an enabler and foster a culture of job-hopping and long periods between professional engagements. If you were not offering him a house to live in at $300 a month, he would have to find his own way in the real world, and become a more reliable and responsible employee.
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