Plus: My friends seem annoyed when I step out of the sidekick role.
Inevitably, someone always asks me to “pass the breadbasket,” assuming it is an offering of the restaurant, whereupon I sheepishly answer, “You are welcome to enjoy a piece, but it is my appetizer.” I am often left breadless.: “It’s good, isn’t it? I actually ordered this as my appetizer, but let’s get another one for the table.”: It would seem my soft-spoken and polite nature attracts big personalities with a desperate need for a sidekick.
I’m not sure why this is a surprise to my extroverted friends. It’s as if they’ve been struck by lightning when I “show up” for the party. I even detect passive-aggressive levels of jealous hostility and competitive behavior at times.How do I assert my right to appear fully, in my own life, for these people who just want a shadow of me to clap for them?: The current zeitgeist calls this Main Character Energy. Miss Manners calls it narcissism.
How to avoid this type of behavior in the first place? The Maya Angelou quote, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” comes to mind.: My husband and I have been unable to come up with an appropriate substitute for a general letter heading. Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, [email protected]; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
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